They say that everybody has their one great love. It’s either you’ve met him/her already or he’s still out there. But how will we recognize our one great love?
One great love is described as a love whose intensity is so great that even the passing of time couldn’t dampen the spark which was first felt when you first met. Meaning all the emotions or feelings is still the same even after years have passed. It is with this one person that we can never forget the sweetness of its kiss, the warmth of its hug and that euphoric feeling in our hearts. Even the slightest thought of not being with him, of not spending the rest of your life with that person is already heart breaking… I guess because we know that we will never fall in love like this again…
True Love entails enduring commitment, maturity and constant communication. True love endures in silence and is never self centered. But our one great love, transcends true love. It is timeless and boundless. Not even time nor distance could stand on its way. It’s like the whole world conspires for your one great love.
So I guess, a person can really only have one great love on any given lifetime. This feeling can be ecstatic but can also be heart breaking… because often times, our great love doesn’t necessarily feel the same way towards us… and it doesn’t necessarily mean that you’ll end up with each other. If that’s the case, is it then worth it to continue loving that person even if the feeling is unreturned? I guess people who get to spend the rest of their lives with their one great love are extremely lucky.
How long then should we hold on and wait for our great love? Is something this great be truly out there?
September 14, 2008
6:30 a.m.
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Nice writing. Couldn't be any closer to what I feel. I have just reconnected with my One Great Love 14 years after we parted ways. We are both married to different people now and we live across the continent from each other, but I will never love another the way that I have loved her.
Thank you for you thoughts.
I was so touch when I read this article..I also have my one great love..I love him so much that I waited for him for 3 years to notice my love. He is my best friend.But it seems that until now he looked at me as his friend. Im married now and he also has its on life but still I could say that his my one great one because i never love anybody the way i love him.Not even to my husband..I never regret of loving him but i regret not telling him how much i love him.For my bestfriend Jeffrey Agustin.. I love you so much
very nice article..but were in the real world,which is not same in a fairy tale that it all end up in happy ending..even though sometimes no matter how deep our love to one person it doesnt mean that they will repay us the same we do..always there is happy and sad ending.
thank you for sharing your thoughts.
I also have my One Great Love... It pains me soooo much... When I separated with my husband because of finding out that he didn't loved me anyway.. I enrolled to my Masteral Degree, a classmate was attracted to me but I never really noticed him until that time when he can't help but fall in love with me... He texted me until finally called my landline...He is also married but a shotgun wedding, however their marriage took 11years now. He said, he really didnt loved his wife & I said, why only now? He said, it so happen that things fall into places, just now... We both love ech other, we both are married to different persons. The point is I am separated already (but not yet legally) & he's not yet separated because he still has to settle the future of his soon to be four children with his wife then we will finally settle with each other... I don't know until when I can endure this seemingly endless waiting... But I am just giving my faith in God. This guy has no plans to let me go or rather get rid of me as he said...I don't know what lies ahead yet, but he is faithful that we will be...But, sometimes, oftentimes I wanted to give up on us, on him, but he won't...Serendipity maybe... Let's see...
Only now that i have realized my one great love... i hope she too would soon realize that despite the craziness of what teh world dictates as normal, she'd still believed and hope that love will be enough.....
I don't know if is it really a one great love for me but I loved him so much despite our differences and I felt that He was not that serious to me. There was something in our relationship that i found it really weird that i never experienced it in my 2 past relationship. I don't see any effort, anything so special that he did. All I can say is He gave too much pain and He was so sensitive. And now He is telling SORRY thru txt and email.. I don't answer his calls and messages. If he is really sincere he must do anything just to please right! it's been a year or 2 yrs on march. I still think of him and I'm strong enough to let him go. HOping for the right love to come.
Perfect description! That's exactly how I feel with my boyfriend of nearly five years, who recently became my husband. I love him so much that it scares me. I guess I should count myself lucky that I ended up with him. Thank you for sharing this.
very heart-warming...i could really relate to your words about one great love. i have my own one great love. though we didn't end up together, i still love him; just like before. he left me without a word---no break-ups,no nothing. didn't know where he is. i've been miserable without him. i've tried looking for him,but to no avail. then this guy(now my husband),came along & took my hand. i didn't intend to fall in love with him because i'm still waiting for my 1st love to come back; till my wedding day, i've waited for him,but he never came. i have learned to live without him for 15-17 years. and now,after 17 years,we've found each other thru social networking. he's in europe(still single) & i'm in north america. our feelings are still the same; but we can never be because i am already married with 3 kids. even though how much we wanted each other back,or how much we still love each other, there's no way we can be together now. fate has a nice way of playing with our hearts. but i'm happy that i have found him again,even we're just friends now. it hurts to know that he can never be mine,nor i can be his. but we both have to move on & be happy for each other. maybe in another life, we can be together again. i will never ever forget him. h is my 1st love. he will always be in my heart...he's my one great love.
Hello! I've been reading your article over and over again and I can say I can relate to your story. And yes, I found my One great love before, we parted ways for 12 years and got reconnected after our reunion... unfortunately we're both married...but still I can say I'm still lucky having a beautiful family and he's separated.. though it sounds crazy we got reunited and really cant forget about him.. but at the end I broke up w/ him and chose to stay w/my family.. it really hurts me a lot but that's the truth..maybe for now I'm just wishing and hoping we'll be lovers again in our next lives w/out commitments, w/out hesitations..thanks for this wonderful article
i just read your article and it's nice to answer a question in my mind, I actually looking for a word that describe my feelings for someone. I am married now for 17 years but i fell in-love for someone whom i met 4years ago, and i may say though we have many differences and conflicts still i fell in love with him and i never love anybody the way i love him. I know we could never be together and only GOD knows what would be in the future.
i have my one great love. he is the father of my three children. but we are not married, and i guess as long as there is no divorce in the Philippines, i will never be married to him. his first wife won't ever allow an annulment of their marriage to take place. it's no problem with me. but he doesn't live with me either. he loves complications, maybe that's what i love also about him. but these complications in his life keep him away from us. and sometimes when i am vulnerable and so insecure, i in a way doubt his reasons why he doesn't live with me and our children. he made so many promises, that changes will take place in our relationship. but for ten long years, i can say that there have been no significant development in our relationship. that from time to time makes me want to just give up.
but i love him so much. it is so hard for me to give everything up esp. since he never fail as a father to my children. our first born died the same day she was born, that would have been an opportunity for him to leave me, tell me that it was all a mistake from the start and that he was just fooling me or it was just all sexual. but he never left. and we tried again to build a family of our own.
everything you wrote here is so true in my case. every word so real, so exact. it just so painful to bear that i may after all not end up with him. i don't want to wait forever but maybe i want to wait even if it takes forever. i am so torn apart. because, after all he is my one great love.
I too have a "one great love", and he was my first bf. WE made promises that we will wait for each other since he left for US. We exchange letter for a year but i met a very persistent suitor and he is my husband now. We did not have a formal break-up. But is end him a break-up but he told me that he didn't receive it. I was able to trace where he is and was able to get his phone number. I called him up and we talked about what had happened to us. He told me that i too was his one great love. We are both married now w/ kids but i always think about him. He told mo that who knows when the right time comes we can still be together. I always pray to God to guide him always and his family. I just hope and pray that we can still be together when the right time comes, i hope in this lifetime. I wish he also thinks of me the way i always do. So sad to think that most often we don't end up w/ our one great love. =(
They say that one is entitled to a one great love...that one person that have touched you to the core of your being...I had mine, and have lost him...How can it be that this person becomes our one great love and yet you can't be together with that person forever? Is one great love the same as "The One"?
It doesnt exist. A man who is married and has cheated on his wife for a year told me to read this....what a joke. He is a joke. Love is a joke. It doesnt exist. Women like to believe it does because they dont want to believe they have been used...but the truth is...most men are users. Its sweet in sentiment...but I am no longer a believer thanks to the man who told me to read this....
Eight years ago I moved on and got married, having kids after everyone assured me my military man and I hadn't known each other long enough (a few months) to be in love. He was stationed elsewhere, I still had a need to see him and joined the military in hope of the chance of seeing him overseas.. Five years ago, during my deployment he moved to my town trying to find me and was told I had moved away. Last year he was in Afghanistan when he checked his FB mail listed under others and found an email from me, a few days later he found out his girlfriend was pregnant. He moved on, got married, and is now living happily ever after. I am so happy with my children bit fill so guilty about my husband because I don't feel the same about his as I did with my ex, he even knows how I feel (I was honest from the beginning). It makes me feel even worse knowing my husband loves me the way I do this other guy.
I too have a one great love. We both have our own family.But years had past and I still feel the same way towards him. I guess that really is the meaning of one great love. Unfortunately for me was not a happy ending with my great love but he will always be in my heart.
This hits me home. My 'One Great Love' whom I have met while I was in college. We spent 8 years together. There was a time when I asked him as to where our relationship is going. He was perhaps startled hearing a very straightforward question, "will you marry me?" He told me that we were too young to get married. I decided to leave and move on with my life. I got married to someone else. Though up until this day, I know that he is the only man that I have loved so intensely. He will always have that soft spot in my heart.
I was also separated from my husband because he loves someone else... anyway, your story is interesting. It has been 5yrs from the time you wrote this, what happen to you and your classmate who fall in love with you?
wow..what a nice feeling being always inlove with your one great love..like you i got reconnected with my one great love 28 yrs after highschool days way back home..that lovely feeling knowing that we both have the same feelings towards each other since then until the day that our path crossed again..i am married but i have always love my one great love more than i loved my husband..if there is one that i would do, i will make a time machine so that i can go back to the time that me and my one great can be together forever,,
I believe in one great love. My one great love started when I was in high school. We are now both married, professionals, have kids, and live on different part of the world. He is in Asia and I am in North America. Whenever I think of him i have this soft and happy feeling in my heart that I can't explain. All I know is I think of him and happy that once i was his girl. I never regretted it, and will never forget our short time with each other. I accepted the fact that we are not meant for each other but I love him and will always have a part in my heart and wishes that the feeling is mutual.
Hi, I also have "one great love". He's my close friend and classmate when we were in college.. I know he loved me but his dreams and priorities in life is more important to him that time... I love him so much but i never consider that we had a relationship because i dont want him to feel that i'm hurt...Last thing he said to me was he's going to love me even in the coming years..we dont have any communication after 5yrs of parting... But i dont know what happened... I got married w/ other guy for 7yrs, now my husband and we have two kids.. But until now i'm still inlove with him..we got recconected again and that time me and my husband was in bad situation... He told me that he's still inlove w/ me..until now he's still single bcoz for him i'm really the one... And until now i love him so much and i dont know why? Everyday i always pray that one day our time will come...that god will give our chance to be together...i'm not happy w/ my husband but i need to stay because of our kids... Now i always cry and just think of our happy moments together and still hoping!!! No matter what happen i know i will always love this man...my one great love...
hi i alSO, have my ono GREAT LOVE,HE was my classmate during my high school,in our fourt year he became my boyfriend,we are very happy when we were together and I said to myself that he was the man im going to marry no other than,just before our graduation he came to me and said,he would not be able to be in our graduation because he was going to work in japan,i was so sad and i cried,he was my first love and i really love him,since he left no letters or any communications with him till i went to my college,i tried to find him so i wrote a letter to his parents,finally i recieved a letter from him,but that was the first and last,years passed and i have my family ,i got married to the man who loved me so much but i couldnt feel the same feeling ive felt for HIM,TIME had passed my children finished their study but still im looking for him until one day only this year i found him in social media,i am so happy to see him once again after 27 years,the feeling is the same,now we have our communication we talk ,we chat,even we often see and still we feel the same feeling during our teenage days,we know it not fair to my side,i am married and he is still single.our feelings is intense everytime we meet,we are very sure that i am his one GREAT LOVE and he is mine GREAT LOVE too,...
I do have one great love. We reconnected after more than a decade of not talking. We kept in touch for year and met for the first time in years. We knew we still love each other like before, but we were both committed to others. He died in an accident a month later. Now it hurts me knowing that whatever chance we have is all gone. We promised each other to get back together in our old age to continue the love. But now it is all gone. He brought into his grave that hope for love and left me with all the "what-ifs" and whys.
My one great love taught me so much.I thought I would spend my life with him. I will never truly know how he feels regarding me but he had me at hello.
I miss our conversation,laughter and many misadventures.
Even after 26 years he has a special place in my heart.
We were two crazy teens against the world.
My wish for him is complete happiness. I treasure the time we had together.
To My one great love that i'll never ever forget.. Hope you feel the same way how much i loved you. You'll stay Forever in my Heart.
I have many loves- some good, some mediocre-a few that started out great. But, I have my "One Great Love" as well. 30 years ago it ended with heartache. I loved him more than I could have imagined- I lost myself- not in a good way. Our love was overwhelming- it consumed us. We were young-18 to 20. We wanted to run away together- "Young Turks". We were young- immature- and I was insecure about who I was. Things happened that tore us apart. I swore I would never lose myself like that again, and built a magnificent wall around my tender heart. He went on in his life, and I in mine- never did our paths cross. I kept in contact with his mom, and some of the friends we had shared. I managed to successfully go through two shitty marriages, and a failed attempt at finding a "good man". He had contacted me on Facebook and we communicated casually on and off for two years. Then a message came across my phone. He was in town- had moved back because his mother was dying. The first meetings were awkward. I quickly conducted my sabotage mode and almost succeeded in destroying my second chance at my "One Great Love," my "Lifetime Love". I cried every time we saw each other- I couldn't control it as much as I tried(I'm not a crier, and have done very well compartmentalizing my painful feelings in relationships) I was in shock at the intensity of my emotions. I had forgotten what it felt like to really "Feel". One night I decided to let my guarded walls down. We kissed, we made love, and I cried. Lol. We talked about what had happened and took responsibility for our parts. I love him completely. There is nothing as beautiful, as tender, or as frightening as letting someone know your deepest feelings. I know it's not going to be all rainbows and unicorns, but I love him. I feel emotionally raw- exposed, and at the same time finally experiencing the intensity and beauty of my "One Great Love". 30 years had passed.
I wish I have the courage to say this to you before its too late. I love you VINS...
I still love you Steve. I miss you everyday. :( My first bf. My one great love. :( But I wish you nothing but happiness with your wife and son. God bless your marriage.
To my one great love: thank you for those times we had. We were young, naive, and it was us against the world. My parents were disapproving, but I still wrote a letter to my dad saying I’ll marry you someday. Maybe if we met when we were older, things would be different. I don’t know whether what we had was called love; but neither do I know how to explain how time and time again we still come back to this; no matter how many years have passed. Maybe it’s love; but we were just not meant to be. Now you’re about to marry the girl you’ve put me on a string for.. you strung me along for so many years as you dated the girl you weren’t so sure off at first. And once you knew, you still had me strung along knowing I was always going to be this naive stupid girl for you. You’re right, I am. Right now, I’ll be the bigger one and let you go. Here’s wishing you all the best in your marriage, in life. And I hope you’ve never regretted meeting me. One day, maybe Fate will let us meet again. Till then, take care J.
Same story here... My one great love ftom my hs days, 27 years ago... We both got families of our own... I am a widowed wife now... And he's still married..... I told him that he's my one great love, and the feeling is mutual....but even if the feelings is right, it is still wrong. Heartbroken forever. I so love him....
I am already married for 10 years and met my one great love few years ago at work. He is also married and has kids. I love my husband and believe that he loves his family too. But there is a deep connection between the two of us. There are times that I feel that our minds can talk to each other. He is my confidant, my friend, my happiness. He makes me feel special. I remeber every limited time we spend together, every word he says, every song he sings. Time is so fast when we are together and so slow when we are apart. I feel that our feelings our mutual, but no one ever dared to tell how we feel towards the other. Well, there is a lot of reasons not to do so, and the biggest one is that we both have a happy family.
Until a day came that we need to part ways. It really broke my heart. I felt that I lost a part of me. Communication is no longer possible. But up to this writing, I still think about him every single day. I hope that one day we meet again. And maybe that time, we can be more than just friends.
It feels good to still get comments on something I wrote years ago. I guess we all experienced a Great Love and although most are not meant to be, still be thankful that we experienced that kind of Love.
I don’t really agree... if it was such a GREAT deep love why would it end? Then if it ends how can one say they truely deeply love another. They wouldn’t. They may love being with them, they may have deep respect for them but true deep love, you couldn’t as that space is held for another. So this next person is runner up, not quite what you want, but what will do.
How can it be a GREAT love if it’s not reciprocated? To me a GREAT Love must involve a shared feeling and if this intense feeling is felt by both then this is definitely a GREAT love rather then one person deeply infatuated with the other while the other is still searching for their “great” love.
To me mutual love that lasts, that endures the hardships, the highs and lows of life is your GREAT love, your true love. This person, this relationship is treasured above all other past loves and relationships because this is the one that is present here and now, enduring and never ending. Love can come and go, you can feel love for many people, there are many versions of love but to make true love and your great love mutually exclusive does not make sense.
So for those of you still harbouring the feeling or regret of losing your GREAT love, think about it closely... you’re supposed “Great” love or true love is no longer by your side, they have moved on and possibly found their true love with another. One sided love does exist, it’s all around us. But is this really a GREAT LOVE or true love... I don’t believe it is. Let go, move forward, this other person has. You deserve that true love, so open up that space for someone that can give you that and most importantly wants to share that with you. That is a great love, that is true love.
i believe in one great love.when i was in 3rd year and 4th year high school then and i was waiting for someone which i know we both have same feelings.after 3 years of waiting he courted me but i didnt accept him because of some reasons.crossing our way after 21 years and we are given a chance to say each others feelings again and we both feel each others love back .but so sad because we are now both married and accept the fact that we are not meant to be.we end up both promise that we will love each other forever and always.❤️❤️❤️
I'm so thankful for his coming back again to my life. after 24 yrs never expected that I'll fall inlove with him,more than the feelings i had for him a long time ago. He was my long lost crush in college way back 1996.We never had a conversation before, never even heard his voice.I watched him in their ROTC formation,the first time I saw him. I got to know his real name ,but i choose to call him "torpe" since his friends call him "TORDS" based from his real family name.
Many years later, i tried to search his name on fb and luckily i found Him.He told me everything,the love he felt for me that nobody knows but himself.
I fell inlove with him,more than the feeling i had for him before.if we could just bring back the old times,maybe if he had just the courage to say how much he care for me before.
We both had our own family now,but still I'm thankful to GOD for giving us this chance to meet again and know each other better.
I do believe in ONE GREAT LOVE, and i found it with you "TORDS"..though i know that we're not meant to be,youre may not be my first kiss nor my first date but we promise that our love for each other will be forever..Thank you for being part of my life, you made my life complete..❤️����
Me and my great love broke up 6 years ago. It was a long and painful breakup. On and off, we we're exhausted trying to make it work. Until we both moved to other countries. After 4years he asked if he has a chance to get me back, he never had any girl since me but told him I just got engaged. I blocked him because I know I still care about him. Every now and then he would message my mom asking about me. I still miss and wonder how is he. It's too bad he realized my worth late, but I am glad because he have thought me so much. I am happy with my husband now, but he will always have a place on my heart.
Still all the same.. my one great love
It's been 12 years now. I wonder what happened
Articles like this doesnt interests me...at all... till the now...I and my (now i agree on the term) my one great love reconnected after 30yrs... we both felt every word written in the article as if it was written for us... hard to explain but i even felt a sudden burst in my heart that i cant contain while reading the article along with the comments. While most of the comments didnt end up with their "one great love", i agree with the one comment who questioned that if it's one GREAT deep love, why should it end?...That's why, we are not giving up on each other, "mutually" working together no matter how difficult our situation is... because we believe we are each others' one great love...
It warms my heart that years after I wrote this, i still receive comments and reactions… this article really hits home
Sadly, they decided to just remain distant friends because both are married already
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